Why nothing changes unless you do
Why nothing changes unless you do
Time for a change?
I’m going to open this one with a Tony Robbins quote. ‘If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get What you’ve always gotten’
We all want things to change right? To live our best lives, to be successful, to not let mindset gremlins get in the way of the things we want to achieve and to just feel happy and fulfilled.
We all want that growth in our lives. When we don’t grow we become stagnant, you feel like you’re living the same year over and over. Or you’re frustrated that nothings moving forward in the way it could if you could just get out of your own way and get moving I mean all the evidence is there that it’s possible right?!
But we’re all carrying on doing the SAME things and expecting different results. Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way.You have to decide, you have to MOVE.
Change comes with CHANGE!
If I hadn’t invested in myself and my own change and transformation I would NOT be doing what i’m doing now. There is literally no chance. I’d probably have less friends and an unhappy husband.
I would be the same old Eeyore on a bad day driving my friends and family mad with my negativity.
That negativity and all those negative thought processes and beliefs would still be 100% holding me back in my life.
Stopping me from taking the chances, making me tell myself ‘I can’t’ or ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘pretty’ enough, ‘thin’ enough, ‘clever’ enough…or just ENOUGH. It would keep me looking for those excuses to give me a reason to quit before I could fail.
I wouldn’t believe that I was capable of all the things I KNOW now that I’m 100% capable of.
I wouldn’t have even TRIED in the first place.
But I’d still be sitting there saying ‘why me’. Why does my life have to be this way? Looking at all those dreams I’ve had since I was a teeneager saying ‘if only’. I’d be WAITING for things to change, watching everyone else around me go after their dreams and using all the excuses under the sun as to why they could have it but not me.
But changing nothing. In my behaviour, my beliefs, my thinking, nothing.
Guess what, if nothing changes NOTHING CHANGES!
Change is not comfortable
All change and all growth requires getting uncomfortable. In order to grow you HAVE to try and do new things. It’s a non negotiable in this.
You CAN change absolutely anything that you want to about your life, your circumstances and even WHO you are. You just have to want it enough.
Keep on reading below but for people who prefer to watch…here you go:
In your journal write down all the things you REALLY want to do and really want to achieve.
Then I want you to write down all the reasons you’re telling yourself you can’t do it or have it. Look at your thoughts, emotions, beliefs and things you are telling yourself are obstacles.
Then I want you to look at that list and ask yourself, what small changes could I start making TODAY that would get me that little bit closer?
Even baby steps are steps in the right direction but you have to take that first step.
Have you had any opportunities recently that could have actually really changed things for you that you didn’t take? Why did you not take it? Write those down.
Write down the opportunity you had, whether it was to meet someone that could have been an important influence in your life, or the business help you said no to because of the investment, or the speaking gig you said no to, the blog you didn’t write.
What stopped you? What were you afraid of?
Once you have that baseline fear, now I want you to ask yourself what scares you about that?! I want you to keep asking until you hit that ‘a-ha’ about what is ACTUALLY going on for you, the REAL fear.
Scared of making the investment?
When it’s investments were scared of it’s very rarely actually about the investment at all.
Often it comes down to a fear of failure or a fear of success and what that will actually MEAN for us, what saying yes to the help could bring into our lives.
Or it’s that we fear we’re not WORTHY of the investment.
But my darling, you are worthy of everything you want and MORE. When you want something enough you will find any way to make it happen.
Decision + Action = Change
Change is all about the ACTION you take! You just can’t sit there and wait for it to happen.
You need to decide enough is enough and decide that it’s time.
Ask yourself, how much do you ACTUALLY want it?
How would you feel 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 YEARS from now if you were still in the same place as you are just wishing that things were different and waiting for it to happen.
You will amaze yourself
When you take that first step towards the change you want you will AMAZE yourself, I promise.
I know. I’ve been there done it and got the t-shirt.
Where I was was absolutely toxic. For me and for people around me and looking back it’s so clear for me to see that from that space, I NEVER would have been able to achieve anything.
I would have been in a constant state of anxiety, negativity and self doubt…but also FULL of excuses and blame. That’s not a healthy place to be.
Write down all the things you want to let go of in your life, your thought processes, your beliefs, your stories.
Now write yourself a new one! What do you CHOOSE for yourself from now on.
Awareness is the first key to change
I’m always saying awareness is the first key to change. We need to drill down on what you want to change and bring it right into your conscious mind. We need to get you walking TOWARDS your fears, not running away from them.
Time for another Tony Robbins quote. ‘Change happens when he pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.’
It’s time to face your challenges head on.
How bad to things have to get for you to take that chance on yourself? To decide to make that change? To invest in yourself and you future?
It’s a journey
This journey can be REALLY uncomfortable, change IS uncomfortable, you’ll be confronted on all the negative aspects of yourself, all the things you try and ignore or suppress, all the mindset gremlins that want to keep you stuck right where you are because they think it’s SAFER.
All those traumas and stories you’ve told yourself that are causing you to think the way you do and believe the things about yourself that you believe.
It’s HARD at first, but it’s so SO worth it.
You’re NOT alone in this. Truly you’re not. It took me over 4 years of trying to do it on my own and it does NOT need to take you that long. You just need to take that chance on yourself and lean on the people that can solve your problems.
Remember, nothing changes until you do.
You just have to simply make the DECISION and take the ACTION.
So, what are you going to change?
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