Let Go Of Perfectionism
Let go of perfectionism
Perfectionism is a BIG mindset gremlin when it comes to getting yourself and your business out there into the big wide world.
It’s a HUGE thing that I see holding people back in their businesses all the time.
I can tell you now it’s a sure fire way to never get started. Or to just carry on making yourself ‘busy being busy’ and not actually getting anywhere.
Let’s call it out for what it is…a big fat way to procrastinate!
It’s sneaky because it LOOKS like you’re being productive and ‘doing all the things’…but you’re not.
Let’s be honest
You know as well as I do if you’re waiting for something to be perfect it’s never going to get out into the world.
But what is perfect really?
How can something be perfect when perfection is completely relative to the person looking at it? It just doesn’t exist!
You couldn’t achieve something that every single person that laid eyes on it would love in equal measure, it just doesn’t happen. Everybody has an opinion…and they are all different.
Take marmite, to some people it is perfection in a jar…to me it’s the devils food and I can’t be far enough away from it!
If they had waited for everyone to think it’s perfection in a jar before they actually put it out into the world it would not be the multi billion pound product that it is today!
So why do we chase perfection?
Despite all of this we strive and strive and strive for it but all it really is is one big delay tactic for whatever is lying underneath.
Perhaps it’s a fear of rejection, a fear of failure, a fear of success, judgement.
Whatever it may be it’s stopping you in your tracks, keeping you stuck and not letting you move forward.
So how do we tackle Perfectionism?
Well, I’ve told you the first part already! 😉 Realise and remind yourself that perfection doesn’t exist.
What’s the real reason?
Next is identify what your fear or belief is about you putting yourself or your product out there now? Awareness is half the battle! It’s the first point. It’s where change comes from. So get curious and keep asking yourself until you find it.
Where would you be?
Ask yourself where you’d be if you just put the thing out there now and then just tweaked it over time? BUT it’s OUT there!
What could it bring into your life? Clients? Sales? Would it build authority or your audience?
Will it ever be ‘done’?
Next question, do you genuinely ever believe you’ll be ‘done’? It will be perfect? Can you see yourself after ‘just one more tweak’ actually pressing go?
So here’s the thing. The best way to stop perfectionism is to…stop being a perfectionist, just stop doing it!! Catch yourself when you know you’re not putting something out there because it’s not quite PERFECT yet and push the button, get it live.
Train your brain that it’s all good
It feels uncomfortable but when you do this you train your brain to know it’s ok for things to be done, not perfect and you’ll find new levels of productivity when you can let go of that belief.
It will get easier and easier and you’ll break the habit of perfectionism and form a new one of taking action and tweaking over time. Which sounds more fun Hmmm?
Waste not want not!
Next, just realise how much time you’re wasting. If you added together all the time you’re tweaking, changing, doubting. What else could you have done in that time? What else could already be in your life if you’d pressed go earlier?
You always need to have WHY you’re doing something in mind to get it done. Connect back to WHY you’re creating what you’re creating, what’s the end goal? What will it bring into your life? What difference could it make to someone else’s? Who are you delaying helping by not getting it out into the world?
Best vs Worst
What is the absolute best case scenario for you and your business if you DON’T get it done? What’s the worst?
What is the absolute best case scenario if you DO get it done? What’s the worst? IS it really that bad?
What would you tell your Bestie?
If your friend was the one delaying getting something awesome out into the world, what would you be saying to them?
‘Yes you should probably wait until that’s absolutely perfect before you do ANYTHING with it!’
Hang on, are we talking my version of perfect, or your version of perfect? I’m confused?!…You see where I’m going here yes?
The bottom line is once you can understand why you’re struggling with perfectionism, understand that perfect doesn’t exist and catch yourself in those moments of awareness this mindset gremlin is 100% tameable. The more you put yourself out there the easier it gets.
Remember it’s a reason to delay and it’s holding you back. There will never be the point of perfection that you’re happy to put it out in the world. Whether its a product, a programme, a lead magnet or going live on facebook. Waiting and striving for perfection is a sure fire way to keep yourself stuck right where you are.
BUT, it’s totally sortable!
If you know this is something that’s holding you back then The Proactive Pants Mastermind could be perfect for you. We will be able to identify this behaviour in the moment and move you past it.
We take things week by week. We will work out what that underlying fear is and move you FORWARDS. With me in your corner and the rest of the amazing ladies in the group already pushing past this stuff and having INCREDIBLE wins.
If you know that now is the time to start changing things for yourself and want to explore this further, have any questions or want some accountability to make sure you’re doing the things you need to then please book in a free discovery call so we can see what needs to happen to get you from where you’re at right now, to the successful business owner lady you know you can be!! All the details are in the links below and I hope to see you on the other side.
P.S – Last question…Are you sick of self sabotaging and procrastinating on getting your business going? Would you like to learn some practical strategies to stop you procrastinating WHEN it happens so you can FINALLY get the things you NEED to do DONE? Download my FREE guide below and I’ll show you 5 simple strategies to stop procrastination in its tracks!
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Fran Excell, mindset coach for self sabotaging female entrepreneurs at www.franexcell.com